This is the fifth in a series of articles providing a chapter-by-chapter in-depth “book club” reading of Mr. Stephen Covey’s classic “the 7th habits of highly effective people”.
I’m reading from the 2004 Free Press paperback edition. This entry covers the fourth habit.
With thus habit starts the interdependence or public part i.e. after having successfully built on your private independence.
Before entering into details Covey is illustrating how to build a large emotional bank account thru regular deposits as:
- Understanding the individual
- Attending to the little things
- Keeping commitments
- Clarifying expectations
- Showing personal integrity (conforming reality to our words, be loyal to those who are not present )
- Apologize sincerely
Habit four is think win/win, which is one of the possible paradigm of human interaction, others being for example the win/lose one (competition instead of cooperation).
Three characters trait the Win/win thinking paradigm: integrity, maturity (the balance between courage and consideration) and abundance mentality (there is plenty out there for everybody).